To be flattered or not ... that is the question

Soooo ... I have to give pretext ... the whole story really ....

I received an emergent call this past friday (11/21) from my ex's sister, whom I am still on friendly terms with. She tells me that her friend, who is visiting NYC, is in trouble and needs me to pick up some money being wired to her from my ex's sister. She says that her friend has enough for the night but that tomorrow (saturday) morning is when she could wire the funds for her friend.

So on saturday, I get a call from my ex's sister instructing me on where the funds are going to be and what hotel her friend is staying at. It's apparently, the Sheraton Hotel on 53rd St and 7th Avenue. Now it's disclosed at this point that her friend is running from a fiancee which is the reason why she couldn't risk going out to get the wired funds herself and required a 3rd anonymous party to pick it up and deliver the funds to her. Now, so far I'm like OK ... someone's in trouble and I'm willing to help out where I can so long as there is no danger to me. Well I tell Putz and he agrees to go with me on this mission.

We finally get the funds and show up to the Sheraton Hotel and i'm told by my ex's sister that I need to go to the front desk and ask for a manager by the name of John and that he would take me to her friend, Carla. So i manage to locate this manager but to my notice, he seemed a little take aback that there were 2 people and that the second person happened to be a male. In any case, he took us up to a deserted cafe on the 44th floor of the hotel and left us there and said that Carla would be up "soon". By now, both Putz and I are both feeling very anxious and the situation seems very strange and none of the pieces of the puzzle are adding up.

Did i also mention that about 2 weeks ago, my ex had suggested to me that he wanted to come and say hello to me and i told him that it wouldn't be a good idea b/c i was going to be headed to AK that weekend, which i really was going to do until i discovered that it was going to cost me an additional $900 to change my ticket. Anyways, if you're running from a fiancee and in desperate need of funding why wouldn't you be waiting for the 3rd party that's delivering the funds? Secondly if you're in need of funds why would you be staying at an expensive hotel like the Sheraton? Thirdly, why not just have me give the funds to the hotel manager and have him deliver the funds to her, if she wanted it to be so anonymous and inconspicuous? So then while putz and i are sitting there discussing this lack of story congruency i get a call from my ex's sister and she asks me if i have someone else with me, if it's a male and most importantly if the male is a "boyfriend". Yes, yes and yes.

Turns out ... there really was no lady with a child running from a fiancee who is desperate need of funds. She was just helping her brother (my ex) find a way to get me to the hotel so that he could surprise me and ask me to go with him to Hawaii to live for the rest of our lives together. WTF?!?!?!?!!? Apparently the original plan was for him to show up at my job ... but b/c he missed his flight that morning to NYC he didn't end up getting into NYC until Saturday morning which had to change all of the plans. Well Putz and i left the money on the table and took off ... Putz was livid that he didn't even bother to ask whether or not I had a boyfriend or not and just decided to put this whole charade together and send us on a wild goosechase that wasn't even real. I was disturbed that he would fly all the way to NYC just ask a girl he hadn't even been dating or building a relationship with to live with him forever ... he had this grandiose fantasy that it would all just workout, just like in the movies! It was a ludricous idea! It might have worked if the 2 people were still madly in love with eachother but were just separated by distance but that certainly wasn't OUR case. I broke up with HIM and had no intention of rekindling that relationship EVER. I never sent him any mixed messages/emails ... you know, like something along the lines of "you know Richard, I've been thinking ...". I have NEVER sent him anything like that at all and never plan to.

So Putz and I left and then i get a call from his sister telling me that he had put an $80K ring aside to propose to me with and i'm thinking to myself ... if you have the money to blast like that ... why don't you just save your money give me the money you owe me for the business loan i'm trying to pay off and call it a day?! I would appreciate you so much more for that! Than a surprise trip out to NYC that dragged me out in the bitter cold on some wild goosechase. I didn't appreciate that at all. It was very selfish of him coz during this entire thing, although the gesture is appreciable, was all about what he could get for himself and not really taking into consideration how I might feel and whether or not I wanted him to be here. Anyways, then he wanted to meet me in person to talk ... i didn't think this to be a good idea but he was insistent and so I finally conceded and we agreed to meet. But 5 minutes later, I get a call from him and he says that he changed his mind and that he really doesn't want to meet.

He's fine with just talking on the phone and then he proceeds to call me a liar and vilify me and victimize himself just like he always did when we were together. It was no different, he was no different and I was like "oh well, see? this is EXACTLY why it would have NEVER worked." Well I spent like 2-3 hours listening to him whine about how hard he worked for me and how he did all these things for me and how in love with me he was and how horribly I treated him and used him and abused him, yadda, yadda yadda! At some point I just stopped trying refute all of his ridiculous claims coz i realized in his head he was convinced that i was a wretched bitch who he still desperately wanted to be with! Hilarious.

But at the end of the day, the only person who knows the real truth about what happened and what was in our hearts is GOD. He's also the only person i really need to answer to, no one else. GOD knows I didn't treat him as horribly as he said I did, GOD knows I'm not a liar, and GOD knows that I NEVER cheated on him (I've never been a cheater in my life and never will be, I've been cheated on and I know how it feels and I would never want anyone else to feel that sort of pain b/c of me, but Richard is 100% convinced that I have cheated on him, so f- it, whatever). Then he goes on and on about how he could have dated this girl and that girl but that he told all of them that his heart belonged to me (Why?! crazy!) and that it was clear that I just moved on and it was "his" turn and that he was releasing me of my "covenant" with him. What covenant?! I NEVER made a convenant with him, ever. Then he mentioned that he should have listened to ALANA!!!! HHHHAAAAA!!!!! When he said that I knew he was totally bananas! He said that Alana had warned him a long time ago that I would hurt him. Alana said her family warned her that I was just using her, but her parents were all for it when I offered to help move Alana to NYC. It's hilarious ... the 2 people who have ever, in my lifetime, accused me of being a user or a heartless, villainous bitch were Richard and Alana and they both are stark mental. It sucks though b/c i thought things were just fine the way that they were going and now everything is all f'd up again ... sigh.